I’m standing in the exact spot where a gay man was gunned down last night in an apparent hate crime just blocks from where I live in New York City.
Anti-gay sentiment is on the rise as we gain greater visibility in society, yet where darkness abounds, grace abounds all the more: today, France legalized same-sex marriage.
Stare darkness in the face knowing that it has no power over your spirit. Grab grace’s hand and walk away.
Anonymous asked: Best concert you've been to?
I brought my grandmother to see Cher for her 92nd birthday. We sat in the nosebleed seats. Everything was perfect.
chrisofthecross asked: Hello Jordan. I wanna say that admire your bravery. My question is what was your process towards self-acceptance?
The things that make you feel ashamed or unworthy are the very things that connect you with other people. Your wounds, your mistakes, and your limitations enable you to be to compassionate with the wounds, mistakes, and limitations of others. And that is why you are here.
I have the power to either weaken people or elevate them. This power isn’t mine alone. Everybody has it, it’s just that so many people don’t see it in themselves. Your small willingness to perceive your own holiness makes you a channel through which it flows into the world to bless people. Your holiness is the answer to the world’s problems, as it is the answer to your own; low self-esteem automatically vanishes when you remember just how important you really are.
Amidst the cacophony of different thoughts and memories in your head, there’s a little Voice, quiet and unassuming but persistent. It says, “You are here for a reason.” Listen to that Voice. It will not lead you astray.
Ask of it, “What would You have me do? Where would You have me go? What would You have me say, and to whom?”
Anonymous asked: Do you have a fans day club where your fans just meet and greet you
This is from my last meet and greet with fans:
Anonymous asked: Jordan -- I know that your Tumblr is not a love advice column, but I can't get this dilemma out of my mind. I fall in love with a guy whom I work with on a project, but I'm not sure if he is gay or not. I know that I should not be afraid to express my feelings, but I AM afraid that touching on this issue--to ask him about his sexuality--will jeopardize our professional relationship. Any advice?
If you’ve been working alongside him for a while and you still don’t even know if he’s gay, I would hold off on professing your love for him. Try being friends for now. If you’re not interested in being friends, you’re probably not really in love.
Anonymous asked: What's your favourite book? TV show?
Favorite TV show:
Anonymous asked: What is love?
The evolutionary impulse of the universe.
ohthatharper asked: Hi Jordan! I have a question about friendship. I have pretty good self-esteem, but the people at my (very) small new school having been doing a great job at cutting away at that. Im not bullied, but they make it very clear im an outsider. I just want FRIENDS at school. But in the meantime Im balancing between keeping the peace-kinda letting them walk over me and maybe making them hate me by standing up for myself. Wheres the balance between self-respect and just dealing w/ people? Thanks!! <3
“All the mistakes I’ve made in my life, I’ve made because I was trying to please other people. Every one of them.” —Oprah
You are the most important person in your life. Think about it: if you weren’t here, you wouldn’t be here.
“Don’t take yourself seriously” is poor advice. Do take yourself seriously, at least seriously enough to know that no one but you holds the key to your self-approval, and you must earn it from yourself by clinging to your highest ideals regardless of what other people think, say, or do.
I would rather be alone than idle myself with people who don’t value me. I don’t need “friends.” I need meaningful relationships. There have been times in my life where I’ve found myself without many people around to give me love and, looking back now, I realize I wouldn’t have been able to receive it because I didn’t really believe I was deserving of it. What I needed most at the time was to be a friend to myself.
Respect yourself and other people will notice. Self-respect means establishing clear boundaries in all personal relationships. Self-respect means cultivating a life where you bring yourself joy. Self-respect means not dimming your light just so that other people won’t feel uncomfortable. Self-respect means softening enough to admit that you’re hungry for real love—and having the strength to refuse the pitiful little crumbs people offer you as a meal.
Anonymous asked: Hey Jordan, I have noticed there are quite a few gay men who are Atheist or Agnostic. From my experience with them they seem to be very defensive and aggressive in making their point that God does not exist. Have you ever had this experience with them and what do you tell them?
Someone else’s theology should be of little concern to me, as mine should be to them. A universal theology is impossible, but a universal experience of goodness, justice, and peace is not only possible, but necessary if we plan on surviving the next few hundred years on this planet.
That said, there are tons of atheists who are actually closet spirituality junkies …
dnclndrs asked: Hi, I truly admire you. I am grateful that you are here as an example of what happens when one surrenders to life. I've been trying to understand that for many years now. It is something that I can't find the words to describe myself but when I listen or read about it, it clicks. I just have to ask you, how do you constantly stay in this place of peace, knowing and love? I feel very lost sometimes, lately it has been most times. But I know I have the power to reach my best self. But how?
Inner peace is your natural state of being. It is not achieved; it is remembered.
When you are not at peace, you have chosen wrongly, which is to say you have chosen to believe thoughts that are not true. Only loving thoughts are true. Every new moment is like a birth, extending to you a clean, untarnished opportunity to choose again whether you will believe in fearful thoughts or in loving thoughts. You cannot decide your beliefs, but you can establish them through experience: choose fearful thoughts and you will believe in the illusion of fear; choose loving thoughts and you will believe in love, because in the pleasure of your release you will remember that you are complete and in need of nothing.
Anonymous asked: Jordan- I recently made a bold choice in my life and a big geographical move in order to follow my dreams. There are so many uncertainties in my life right but the one thing that remains is the faith that things will work out. Yet I'm beginning to feel lost and unsure of how exactly to make these dreams a reality (hard work notwithstanding). How do you keep the faith when the next steps in following your dreams are unclear to you? How do you guard the clarity when it starts getting hazy? ~Kyle
“Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.” —Von Goethe
Congratulations. You’re part of a special minority of powerful people who have endured the cynicism of the world and still believe in the beauty of their dreams. Just standing up to move toward them is half the battle. You really are halfway there or perhaps even closer, but you are always closer than you think.
You don’t need to be clear about the steps. The steps will reveal themselves when you focus on what it is you really want. A practical exercise is spending some time every day actually feeling the feeling of what it would be like if you already had what you want. By matching the vibration of your dreams, you pull them closer to you.
One of the most helpful things I’ve learned is that clarity comes from engagement, not thought. I am a thinker. I think all day long. I value my thought process. But thinking can only do so much.
Dive in. Take chances. Boldness has magic in it.